Be Kind, Rewind

Look behind you and you’ll see
Footprints of people who inspire you
All your journey through

Look, look back and feel glad
These memories won’t just remain in the past
Let them linger, let them last

Finally, We’re closing an end
to start a beginning
Leave behind the things
we won’t be needing
Before we begin this quest
and start anew
To all who have given
help we need, Thank you

Farewell to the Good old salad days
We had our share of laughters and tears
Goodbye for now til we meet again
Tomorrow we never have to fear

Stand, stand tall keep your feet on the ground
Only a brave soul could come, see and conquer
We’ve learned to fly each time we falter

Face your fears
Live your dreams
Dare to make a difference

10 Things Not Taught in Design School by Olivier Blanchard

May Tobias Papa

Painting by M. Papa; Owned by Ming Ong

 

Why should any of this matter to anyone who isn’t a designer? Because many of his observations apply to other disciplines as well, whether you’re in marketing, PR, brand management, accounting, senior management, engineering or retail. If you love what you do, you will find some great lessons here:

1. Talent is one-third of the success equation.
Talent is important in any profession, but it is no guarantee of success. Hard work and luck are equally important. Hard work means self-discipline and sacrifice. Luck means, among other things, access to power, whether it is social contacts or money or timing. In fact, if you are not very talented, you can still succeed by emphasizing the other two. If you think I am wrong, just look around.

2. 95 percent of any creative profession is shit work.
Only 5 percent is actually, in some simplistic way, fun. In school that is what you focus on; it is 100 percent fun. Tick-tock. In real life, most of the time there is paper work, drafting boring stuff, fact-checking, negotiating, selling, collecting money, paying taxes, and so forth. If you don’t learn to love the boring, aggravating, and stupid parts of your profession and perform them with diligence and care, you will never succeed.

3. If everything is equally important, then nothing is very important.
You hear a lot about details, from “Don’t sweat the details” to “God is in the details.” Both are true, but with a very important explanation: hierarchy. You must decide what is important, and then attend to it first and foremost. Everything is important, yes. But not everything is equally important. A very successful real estate person taught me this. He told me, “Watch King Rat. You’ll get it.”

4. Don’t over-think a problem.
One time when I was in graduate school, the late, great Steven Izenour said to me, after only a week or so into a ten-week problem, “OK, you solved it. Now draw it up.” Every other critic I ever had always tried to complicate and prolong a problem when, in fact, it had already been solved. Designers are obsessive by nature. This was a revelation. Sometimes you just hit it. The thing is done. Move on.

5. Start with what you know; then remove the unknowns.
In design this means “draw what you know.” Start by putting down what you already know and already understand. If you are designing a chair, for example, you know that humans are of predictable height. The seat height, the angle of repose, and the loading requirements can at least be approximated. So draw them. Most students panic when faced with something they do not know and cannot control. Forget about it. Begin at the beginning. Then work on each unknown, solving and removing them one at a time. It is the most important rule of design. In Zen it is expressed as “Be where you are.” It works.

6. Don’t forget your goal.
Definition of a fanatic: Someone who redoubles his effort after forgetting his goal. Students and young designers often approach a problem with insight and brilliance, and subsequently let it slip away in confusion, fear and wasted effort. They forget their goals, and make up new ones as they go along. Original thought is a kind of gift from the gods. Artists know this. “Hold the moment,” they say. “Honor it.” Get your idea down on a slip of paper and tape it up in front of you.

7. When you throw your weight around, you usually fall off balance.
Overconfidence is as bad as no confidence. Be humble in approaching problems. Realize and accept your ignorance, then work diligently to educate yourself out of it. Ask questions. Power – the power to create things and impose them on the world – is a privilege. Do not abuse it, do not underestimate its difficulty, or it will come around and bite you on the ass. The great Karmic wheel, however slowly, turns.

8. The road to hell is paved with good intentions; or, no good deed goes unpunished.
The world is not set up to facilitate the best any more than it is set up to facilitate the worst. It doesn’t depend on brilliance or innovation because if it did, the system would be unpredictable. It requires averages and predictables. So, good deeds and brilliant ideas go against the grain of the social contract almost by definition. They will be challenged and will require enormous effort to succeed. Most fail. Expect to work hard, expect to fail a few times, and expect to be rejected. Our work is like martial arts or military strategy: Never underestimate your opponent. If you believe in excellence, your opponent will pretty much be everything.

9. It all comes down to output.
No matter how cool your computer rendering is, no matter how brilliant your essay is, no matter how fabulous your whatever is, if you can’t output it, distribute it, and make it known, it basically doesn’t exist. Orient yourself to output. Schedule output. Output, output, output. Show Me The Output.

10. The rest of the world counts.
If you hope to accomplish anything, you will inevitably need all of the people you hated in high school. I once attended a very prestigious design school where the idea was “If you are here, you are so important, the rest of the world doesn’t count.” Not a single person from that school that I know of has ever been really successful outside of school. In fact, most are the kind of mid-level management drones and hacks they so despised as students. A suit does not make you a genius. No matter how good your design is, somebody has to construct or manufacture it. Somebody has to insure it. Somebody has to buy it. Respect those people. You need them. Big time.

Winter Guidelines ala TLC’s What Not to Wear

I dedicate this page to a friend who’s flying from the hottest part of the world and visiting NY this November.

Enter at your own risk.

ACOR WINTER GUIDE

A. Sweater Long sleeve dress(tank top and thermal pants and leg warmers a must!) B. Cashmere Scarf C. Mule Pumps D. Hoodie with Fleece E. Thick Hoodie

ACOR WINTER GUIDE2

A. LAYER 1 Collared Shirt/Longsleeves a must! B. LAYER 2! V-neck sweater! C. Layer 3! Thick Trench Coat

ACOR WINTER GUIDE3

A. Turtleneck sweater top B. Tights/Leggings & Ankle Leather Boots C. Thick Vest/ Leather D. Winter Combo with Jacket Vest

A. Sweater Long sleeve dress(tank top and thermal pants and leg warmers a must!) B. Cashmere Scarf C. Mule Pumps D. Hoodie with Fleece E. Thick Hoodie

View from the Empire

Two of C’s best gals invited me on a girls day out. Shiel thought I might change my mind about moving to this new place  if I went on hibernation mode longer than I already have.

The plan was to go scour for wedding dresses. (Shiela too, just got engaged.) So we met with MJ at Soho for lunch. Indian food has never been enticing since. We had Masala and Chicken Tandoori. Last stop is at the Empire State Bldg. Yes, the giant gorilla’s tower. Aside from buildings, I didn’t know what to expect. All I could think of was the wedding gown appointment.

MJ and Shiela amused with wedding veils

MJ and Shiela amused with wedding veils

The Filipino French Resto we originally rooted for, closed down so we hopped to that Girl’s Play shop, Babeland next to it. Two words- Femme Fatale. It was a liberating experience. Twas like having a sneak peek of my bridal shower.

We went to David’s Bridal next for me to try on THE DRESS. It gave me chills down my spine. It’s funny why I felt that intense am-I-really-getting-married in this dress feeling. (As if I didn’t marry yet) But not being too girlish and all, I never seriously thought about my wedding too much like many women who obsess about weddings since they were little girls. It’s just nerve-wracking especially after I had to put on the veil!

C: "U jump, I jump remmember?"

C: "U jump, I jump remember?"

The trauma was shaken off when we walked 9 blocks to 34th St. and 5th Ave. and walked some more 6 flights of stairs from the 80th floor of the Empire State. C followed through after work to join me for a romantic walk on the top of NY. I saw the whole of the city and wrapped up the day with a portrait of us.

Serendipity at Gray’s Papaya

There was this scene from John Cusack’s and Kate Beckinsale’s Movie  Serendipity on TV, where the two wooed each other over a hot fudge dessert after an incidental meeting at Bloomingdales. My S.O. C, said that the restaurant is actually named Serendipity and he knows where it is in the City. I didn’t bother to ask if it was named after the movie or the other way around, but instead asked him out on a sundae fudge date.

Gray's Papaya in Midtown Manhattan

Gray's Papaya in Midtown Manhattan

It’s near Central Park. But to my surprise, we stopped over at the infamous Gray’s Papaya. (Movie reference: Fools Rush In) The hot fudge date was moved a little later as we were currently stuffed by the best Frankfurter in town. Best known for their budget hotdogs at $4.45 (2 sandwiches and a drink) So cheap a meal they call it Recession Special. Ok so much for econo talk. It’s soo good I wasn’t able to get a shot of the interior with the Kuya’s in the counter whom all three are flips!!

Sundae Salon Hit Serendipity

Fudge Office Hit Serendipity

We went back on the road off to our real destination. Serendipity must be worth the long travel from home (and the exhorbitant Parking fees) At 220 3rd Ave., a crowd filled the front entrance of the Resto. I thought it didn’t need for us to make reservations since hello it’s a freaking ice cream place, we only want dessert? But since it’s gotten really a bit overrated, perhaps all of us who saw the movie that day all felt our taste buds salivating and rushed to the same fudge office hit Serendipity. We couldn’t wait an hour and a half in line just to get in (due to exhorbitant parking fees) so we backed off and went to the nearby candy store. We’re definitely booking our next visit and take the subway, no more walk-ins!

Unique (and Reasonable) Wedding Favors

 

As of today, I have hand-picked wedding gifts for my bridesmaid, groomsmen, ninang (godmother), and ninong (godfather). Looking for wedding gifts for my entourage can really be a daunting task. Of course I would want something special but practical. For most brides, we turn to the knot.com for guidance. They have cute, fresh stuff over there to offer.

I signed up and found really cute wedding favors at reasonable costs. Here’s one for the Ladies! 

Manicure Polka Dot Bag for the bridesmaid!

Manicure Polka Dot Bag for the bridesmaid!

 Item costs $3.85. There are 7 bridesmaids so far And counting, so that gives me roughly $28 for bridesmaid gifts. Not bad for form and function! 

diamond-crusted compact

diamond-crusted compact

 

I fell in love with this glittery compact as soon as Ive seen it. But I couldn’t let go of this other locket key chain. Wedding Gifts for our godmothers. This compact will cost us $16 each. Our entourage for Primary Sponsors, 6 godmothers and 6 godfathers. So it would cost us almost a hundred for the godmothers alone. Whereas with this keychain locket (love at first sight!), we can save upto $7 each. Godmother wedding gifts, $48.

keychain locket

keychain locket

Now for the guys, it is usually more expensive. We don’t want to underestimate my groomsmen’s fetishes. I found this swiss knife that doubles as a money clip for $6.95 each. So I should have 7 groomsmen in the list, pairing up with the ladies, Groomsmen gifts for a total of $49. A little more pricey than my bridesmaid, you can find money clips for $3-4 each in the website.

pocket knife/money clip

pocket knife/money clip

Metallic Flasks are soo cool! I just loved it. Although I’m just too worried I don’t want my godfathers to think I urge them to go drinking or whatever. Im hoping They’re just gonna take it as a keepsake. Metallic Flasks for godpa’s ($8.89 each) for 6, $54.

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Metallic Flasks for $5.95

Today I break my silence

I only started my ocular of the New City last week. And I have seen what I once  only saw flashed on white screens as a student and quizzed on.

Bridge over a Pond of Water Lilies, 1899

Claude Monet, Bridge over a Pond of Water Lilies, 1899

This is one of them, an impressionist bridge over a pond artwork by Monet. I can still hear the resonance of Sir Fernando Dakila’s stern voice as he told stories of how beautiful French culture is.

MET Museum is going to be my sanctuary. I could go back everyday. Until my membership is up. Until I freak out and stuff myself with so much Rococo visions and my eyes hurt. Actually it won’t. Such a thing of beauty, the MET.

I feel that I have cloistered myself so much lately stressing on matters of consequences (read: job-hunting)

When a really annoying incident happened yesterday, I’m swearing off facebook thumbnail ADS. Some of them are actually scams. I almost fell for it. From that instance I knew I had to channel my online energies on something more worthwhile, both helpful to myself, my friends or Pinays out there like me. (who might be culture-shocked at some point)

I just moved to the New City. I couldn’t remember transitioning between that flight from home to here maybe because I have been meeting Fil strangers along the way, maybe it felt like home seeing my beau again and my erpat after a long time…

My Erpat, after five years of not seeing him

My Erpat, after five years of not seeing him

So maybe it just occured to me today that I am half a world away from home? I suddenly started acting crazy. For the many reasons I am, that almost-scammed online thing yesterday scared the smart-ass out of me. And so I feel that I am meant for bigger things. In this big city.

Today is St. Paddy’s Day. I am breaking my silence, putting on a green shirt and hitting the grand parade. Welcome to NY!